What is Ménage?
Ménage is a unique experience; a private social gathering, offering a house party atmosphere and on-premise play. Almost 1600 square feet of dedicated play space, fully outfitted for kinky fun: a wide open play and mingling area, wet bar, and 4 dedicated playrooms. There’s even something for the ultra-naughty crowd: crosses, a spanking bench, stockade, gloryhole and a suspension room for those who really like to tie one on. A large octagonal bed is the focal point of the group playroom.
Ménage creates an environment – and ultimately a community – where sexual fantasy can meet reality. We are focused on intimacy and safety, both physically and emotionally, where people can enjoy themselves and each other in ways they can’t otherwise.
Ménage is provocative as well as educational – offering something surprising at parties, a place to develop meaningful relationship dynamics, and seminars and workshops to help Lifestylers and Vanillas understand more about what they feel and how to have even more fun. We are a non-threatening way to explore those naughty thoughts in the back of your mind – the ones you don’t dare mention to anyone else. Our goal is to challenge, invite and support you in your journey.
Are singles allowed?
Events are for couples, triads, groups, whatever… and chaperoned singles. Couples don’t have to be male/female; whatever floats your boat. Nobody comes to Ménage alone and everyone is responsible for the person/people they come with.
If you are single and want to come to Ménage, it’s easy. Just bring a friend (we call them your FWB).
What’s a FWB?
Whatever your gender, if you want to come to Ménage without a date these rules apply:
- When you come to Ménage you must bring a FWB with you.
- You can’t FWB someone you don’t know. You must know them and trust them.
- Your FWB can be the same gender, a different gender, or even a couple/triad/group.
- You are responsible for your FWB’s behavior and they are responsible for yours.
- If either/any of you violate the terms of attendance you will both/all be held responsible.
- You must arrive together and leave together
Still have questions? Click here for the FWB FAQ.
How busy are the events?
Ménage is intended as an intimate affair. The capacity for monthly parties is 40-50 people, and the capacity for seminars and workshops varies depending on topic – usually 15-30 people for optimal learning experiences.
We strongly encourage you to buy your tickets in advance. Members who do so are guaranteed admission. Our events fill up very quickly and we do not want you to be disappointed because we have a capacity limit. Special events, such as Valentine’s Day, Halloween, Christmas and New Years parties will fill up well in advance.
Do we have to buy tickets online?
No tickets are available at the door unless noted on the event page. All tickets must be bought in advance because space is limited at some events. Also, membership is part of your ticket price. You will need to agree to those terms of attendance as part of the purchase process.
What should we wear?
As the saying goes, “dress to impress”. You’ll look sexy when you feel sexy so wear what makes you feel comfortable, vibrant and sensual, but please do make an effort to “clean up” – no ripped jeans, t-shirts or ball caps unless the party theme calls for it. That doesn’t necessarily mean lingerie and nudity – onesies are adorable, too!
Do you sell alcohol, or should we bring our own?
We do not sell or otherwise provide alcohol, nor are we licensed to do so. You are, of course, welcome to bring your own. We offer all the standard soda mixes, ice and a non-alcoholic punch at our events, as well as hot midnight hors d’oeuvres.
Can we play onsite, or are there hotels close by?
Both!
Ménage is an on-premise playground, so people could be having sex around you.
In the event you like more privacy, or you want to continue the party after we close, you can either go to a nearby hotel, or stay in the play suite for the night. There are a wide range of hotels at Banff Trail Station and the price range covers the whole spectrum. There are also two great quality hotels across from Canada Olympic Park : a Sheraton and a Sandman. Both Banff Trail Station and the COP hotels are less than a 10 minute drive away, but in separate directions from us.
Do we HAVE to play at Ménage?
Absolutely not. You do what you’re comfortable doing. Voyeurism and Exhibitionism are both big turn-ons for a lot of people. Go only as far as you want to go.
Can you provide introductions to someone we're interested in?
We won’t give out contact information. But if you’re both at the party, we’re happy to break the ice.
How do we tactfully tell a couple that we are not interested?
How do you handle a situation where a couple is showing interest in playing with you, but for whatever reasons, there is no attraction or interest in getting together? (Perhaps you like this couple socially, but not as prospective play partners.)
Not everyone is attracted to everyone else. It should always be stated with kindness, concern and without sounding like rejection. Follow your instincts, use common sense and be sensitive. Everyone is afraid of hurting another’s feelings. A simple “no thank you” can go a long way. There doesn’t have to be an explanation for who is attracted to whom. A polite, honest answer is the best. There is usually no need to get into details of why. We’re all adults, and everyone in the Lifestyle has been in this position and wants the same thing: to be treated respectfully, honestly and tactfully. Honesty is, after all, a big part of this lifestyle; honesty between partners and among each other. If you are not interested, just tell them.
What if we run into someone we know outside the Lifestyle?
Everyone has this concern, and some forget that if you see them there, they see you there too. Smile, acknowledge each other, and if you choose to strike up a conversation, do so! You may very well become even better friends!
What is Ménage Noir?
Ménage Noir is all the good things you’ve come to expect and enjoy when you attend, only……darker. We’ve created a night not for the dabblers and curious, but the practicing and masters in their particular fetishes. Noir is unplugged, unfiltered and unapologetic. SSC and RACK apply. Almost anything goes.
Certain events in the calendar will be clearly marked NOIR. These are “by invitation only” events, with guests curated based on the theme or activities chosen. If you’re invited, you’ll receive the registration link; it will not be made widely available.