The FWB system means that nobody comes to Ménage alone, and each person is responsible for the person they came with. It’s like a buddy system for perverts. “Friends With Benefits” doesn’t need to mean you’re intimate with that person, just that you know and vouch for them. The benefit, in this case, is that you both/all get to enjoy your time at the House!
I am a single guy. Can my FWB be another single guy?
YES! As long as you know and trust them, you can testify to their good character and agree to keep an eye on each other, your FWB can be any gender.
We are a couple and we have a single friend- can we bring them with us?
YES! Please do! As with everyone, you’re responsible for each other, and when you leave they must as well – please don’t leave your FWB behind, they get lonely and we have to feed them breakfast.
I am a single girl. Do I really need to bring a FWB?
YES! They can be any gender or a couple.
I am a single guy. Am I welcome?
YES! Like everyone else, as long as you have a FWB who you knows and can vouch for you, you are welcome.
I am a genderqueer/non-binary-gender person. Am I welcome?
YES! People of all genders are welcome at Ménage.
Can I meet someone online, arrive with them, and then enjoy the party?
NO! You must know your FWB, be able to testify to their good character, and trust them. To come to the event with someone you don’t know and trust is disrespectful to our community and the neighborhood, and compromises the safety of the space and the people in it. This is not the place for a blind date, or even a first date.
Can I make last minute plans, call my friend who is already there, and get them to meet me at the door and be my FWB?
YES! As long as they can meet you at the door when you arrive. Keep in mind they won’t be able to use their cell phone inside, so they may not be easily reachable unless you make plans in advance.
If I arrive 15 minutes before my FWB can I hang out at the party till they arrive?
YES! But you will need to stay in the kitchen/welcome area so that you are there when they arrive to check in.
Can I come with a group of three or more single FWBs?
YES! As long as you all arrive together, all agree to keep an eye on each other, and leave together.
I have been coming to Ménage for years. Can I come without a FWB?
NO! You will need to come with someone.
What happens if my FWB misbehaves?
First we will talk to them, and then we will find you and talk to you. If it is serious then they will be banned and you will get a warning. If you are not there, we will get your email address from your FWB and contact you after the event.
Will I get kicked out if my FWB misbehaves?
You might. It depends on the situation. So only invite a FWB whom you know and trust, and won’t jeopardize your own attendance, not to mention the safety and comfort of everyone else at the party.